Let Go of People Who Drain You & Realize a New Level of Normal

You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
— Jim Rohn

The one true way to reprogram and  biologically “mess with your brain” to give you different results in life is to change the people you choose to spend time with on a daily basis. Sounds a little drastic, but hear me out.

We’ve all got that one person who ends up driving us cRaZEe. You get off the phone or leave a coffee date with them and you’re exhausted – emotionally, mentally and physically. If you only saw them occasionally this might not be a big deal. But you and I both know this person has enough drama going on that their needs are never occasional.

And you’re just not one to say no. I get it. It is hard to say no to people who have been in your life for any length of time and unless you’ve set up your own intervention, you might just have more than one needy “friend”.

If you’ve come to a point where you’re feeling stuck, smothered or suppressed by those around you. If you’re in a relationship that’s going nowhere, or your social circle is no longer a place in which you feel supported, let alone elevated. It's time for a self-intervention.

Why? Because as long as you see your circumstances, and those who drain the pants off you as “normal”, life will not change. I find this fact fascinating –


Biologically, we’re wired to become what we perceive to be “normal”.


For example, if you’ve grown up in a family that thinks going to college and becoming a doctor or lawyer is normal, then chances are that’s what you’ll do -- at least to begin with. If you’ve grown up surrounded by people who believe French fries are a vegetable and weighing 200 pounds is normal, there’s a good chance you’ll be heavy too. 

Now let’s flip this around to something that you might really want - a sculpted core and booty to match, anyone? Start hanging out with the cardio barre crowd and see how fast your body changes. Want to feel more ease and grace in your life? Start spending time with people who radiate this mindset.

This works because you literally change your brain’s perception of what is normal.

If you want a different life, then you have to surround yourself with people who think about the things you want, as NORMAL.

You can also think about it this way – what are you energetically saying when you hold onto people who drain you? You’re saying it’s ok for you to be held there. For as long as you do that, you’re not allowing anything different to come into your life. The following quote says this perfectly:

This article has also appeared on ZLiving.com.