Do you remember a time in your life where you went to bed bawling your eyes out and woke up the next morning still crying? Days when you thought it wasn’t possible to get out of bed, let alone function? Or months that blurred into oblivion on no more than three to four hours of sleep per night?
When you’re in the middle of what feels like "the point of no return," it might look like there’s no way out. At least not one that doesn’t involve pills, Prozac or piling on the pounds. When I was going through my own dark night of the soul, two things stood out as getting me through it:
1) A commitment to feeding my body what I’d already, thankfully, worked out it does best with.
2) Realising the thoughts I fed myself each day were just as important.
For me the second was definitely the harder of the two. Way harder. But once I understood that self-acceptance was a process, not an event, I realised that I could create a different script for how I spoke to myself. I realised life could be full of so much more joy, grace and ease. Bliss was on her way.
If you’re longing for a different body or a different life, there comes a point when you have to decide:
Do these thoughts I have serve me, or are they hindering me? Are these beliefs empowering and inspiring me to live my purpose, or are they keeping me in that negative downward spiral where I feel like I’m not good enough, smart enough, thin, pretty or successful enough?
This is so important for anyone trying to create the body or life they long for:
You need to trust yourself and believe that you are worthy of a joyful life.
If you believe you are worthy of feeling good, vital, whole, healthy and sexy, then you are not going to want to stuff your body full of things that make you look and feel bad.
I understand it can be really hard to accept that an over-weight, out of shape, cellulite-ridden body is worthy. We think “no way, I can’t accept that, because if I do I won’t want to do anything to change it. I’ll become lazy. I’ll just lie around and eat even more."
But the truth is, when we accept and love ourselves exactly as we are, we actually want to take greater care of ourselves. We want to nurture ourselves. It is also the starting point from which you can allow new thoughts and beliefs to develop.
Think for a moment of a child that you love. When you love a child, you naturally want to nurture and take amazingly good care of that child, don’t you? When you to start appreciating your body in exactly the same way, your body starts to respond to that love and adoration.
Believe it or not, your body takes what you say to it personally, so you need to give it positive encouragement and talk to it the way you would a small child that you love and adore. When you do, you’ll find that change comes about a lot faster.
Unfortunately most of us talk to ourselves in ways that would horrify us if someone else spoke to us in the same way. I encourage you to take note of those conversations inside your head. What if you started speaking to yourself as you would to your best friend?
Imagine how you’d start to feel and how you’d automatically want to take better care of yourself, as you would your best friend.
If you’re trying to release weight, try simply forgetting about the weight and concentrating on what you want to create instead. That dream.
When you get involved in that bigger idea, what used to be your “problem” (your weight, for instance) diminishes its hold on you as you begin moving at a frequency that is more compatible with a life you really want to live. And you’ll find those extra pounds you’ve been carrying around, begin to disappear.
Take a moment to think about what you’d love your life to look like and ask yourself “how can I make today a little more like that?” What action steps can I start to take today? Remember, your weight might just be a symbol of what’s weighing you down, of what feels heavy and draining to you. Take some time to look at your life and think about what is missing. What makes you feel lit up from the inside out that you’re not doing or having now?
When we deny our soul’s passion, when we are not living our dreams and not living up to our own potential, that is when dis-ease manifests.
So go for it!
This article has also appeared on Gaia.com